I have a ton of great people in my life. I have my amazing husband, who has the patience of a saint. I have my grandmother, who even though she’s thousands of miles away, can always manage to say the right thing when I need it. I have my wonderful mother in law, who is always there for our little family. I have a wonderful aunt-in-law that offers me a great help and used baby things. I have a sister-in-law that is nothing but thrilled to send me her used baby items that are in great shape. I can’t say thank you enough to these people who have had such a huge impact on my mine and my son’s life.
This post is not about them. This post is about the people that are anything but helpful. The ones who think they’re helping but instead they’re just causing more and more stress that I don’t want or need. These are some of the people you’ll meet as a new mom. You might have known these people all along, but you’ll see them in a different light as they now fit into one or all of these categories.
The Empty Offer-er: These people are the ones who offer to help you out when you need it and then are nowhere to be found when you actually need them. I’ve had a lot of those since my son was born. If you don’t want to help, don’t even offer. I don’t see what anyone gains from making these offers and then when we take you up on it you’re too busy or it’s just too hard for you to do.
The Snobby Mom: These are the moms that will forever be looking down their nose at you. No matter how proud you are of something you’ve done, they will either one up you or tell you why what you did was stupid and pointless. Please pull the stick from your ass before we talk next time, thanks.
The Inexperienced Helper: These are the ones that have never watched a baby for more than 2 hours but are somehow self proclaimed experts. They will be over the top with offering you advice and helpful suggestions. Little do they know that baby sitting a baby and actually raising one are two very different things.
The Competitor: These are the ones that will forever be trying to make you look bad by doing something even better than you did. They’re often grouped in with the snobby moms. Nothing you do will ever been as good what they did. Their kids are perfect, you couldn’t possibly relate to them.
The Show Off: They will make everything look so fucking easy that it hurts your heart. They make it sound like motherhood is just a walk in the park on a spring day. They act like they’ve never spent a night up with a screaming baby or cleaned puke out of their bras. Don’t let them fool you, they’ll break one day.
The Bitch: The title says it all. Some people just become bitches to you when you have a baby.
The Over-Gifter: This person will buy you and your kid all sorts of crap you don't need, but they see as vital. They won't buy you just one pair of snow boots (in August) for your child, they'll get you three pairs in case one gets dirty.
My best advice is just to simply weed out the people you don't need. I've had a hard time lately because my actual family has become so small. Then I stop and look around at the people that I do have and realize that quality is more important than quantity. Thankfully these people listed above are ones that I mainly only have to see for holidays or birthdays. Let's keep it that way.
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